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Divorce
By Tolu Dada
Abuja, Oct. 5, 2016 (NAN) The President of Kurudu Customary Court, Abuja, Jamilu Jega, has identified desperation to get married among youths as a major cause of divorce in the country.
Jega told the News Agency of Nigeria on Wednesday that present day marriages experienced shorter lifespan compared to the marriages of old.
“It will interest you to know that most of those seeking divorce today are between one and 10 years. Some are even a few months old and they want you begin to wonder what the problem is.
“ Most young men and women are so desperate to be married and don’t use their courtship period to get themselves ready for each other. A lot are just so eager to get married, a lot of them not minding what the consequences of their actions are.
“Unlike before, intending couples don’t take time to study each other, learn to communicate properly to each other and prepare for the task of marriage ahead,’’ he said.
Jega also attributed the increasing divorce rates to roles played by family, friends and the society at large.
According to him, it is unfortunate that friends, relatives, colleagues, family pressurise young people into marriage.
“Some couples in trying to meet what is demanded of by the society, out of desperation rush into marriages without careful considerations,’’ he said.
He advised aspiring couples to see the marriage institution as something serious and not some fantasy or funfair.
“Intending couples should stop seeing marriage as some sort of fantasy or funfair; they should be serious about their marriage and not treat the marriage like a wedding where you invite third parties into your personal affairs.
“They should also embrace the idea of long courtship in other not to go into a marriage based on falsehood,’’ he said.
He also advised couples not to compare their marriages to that of their friends or relatives. (NAN)
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Edited by Felix Nwadioha